Why Do Pro-Lifers Stop Caring about Children after They’re Born?

Is it true that the anti-abortion side is “pro-life until you’re born?”

 

 

One of the misperceptions deliberately spread by promoters of the culture of death is that pro-life and pro-family activists are hypocrites because their actions do not match their philosophy. If this idea gains traction, our message can be completely disregarded, and life (or, in many cases, death) can go on as usual. More importantly, those who embrace the culture of death will feel better about themselves, because we pro-lifers are supposedly just as bad as them.

Obviously there are dishonest and deceived people in the pro-life movement. This is inevitable in a movement of more than a million people. We have seen “pro-life” politicians repeatedly betray their constituents, “pro-life” political activists stealing money from other activists, and “pro-life Christians” publicly lying to judges, committing adultery, and killing abortionists in the name of life.

 

The Pro-Life Standard

Pro-lifers are certainly not perfect. However, the great difference between pro-lifers and anti-lifers is that we have set for ourselves a very high (and, in fact, unreachable) level of conduct and morality. Therefore, we are bound to fail in our quest for sanctity, even though we try our best to avoid evil and wrongdoing.

Those who subscribe to the culture of death, by contrast, have no objective standard of morality, and only do what they find convenient at the moment. Their list of sins includes only those activities that they would never themselves commit, so, by their own definition, they rarely if ever sin.

It all depends upon the standards to which you hold yourself.

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Christians try to emulate Jesus Christ. His standard is so high that it is impossible for any mere human being to meet it. Therefore, in the eyes of the anti-lifer, all Christians are by definition hypocrites.

The primary differences between pro-lifers and anti-lifers is that the pro-lifer is trying. A quick story will illustrate this point:

Let us say that two people are training to run a marathon. One says that he wants to set a record time of 2:05. He trains diligently, focuses all of his efforts on running faster, and suffers intensely for years. The second runner sets no standards for himself. He jogs a few miles now and then, eats whatever he wants, and completely lacks even the most basic self-discipline. When the day of the race comes, he ambles through the marathon, sitting down when he is tired, never suffering in the least, and finishes in six and a half hours, while the runner who trained hard finishes in 2:10. The slower runner then sneers at the faster one that he is a “hypocrite” for not meeting his goal.

The most common allegation of inconsistency used against pro-lifers is that we don’t care about children after they are born. A good example of this was provided by professional bigot George Carlin, who said:

Boy, these conservatives are really something, aren’t they? They’re all in favor of the unborn. They will do anything for the unborn. But once you’re born, you’re on your own. Pro-life conservatives are obsessed with the fetus from conception to nine months. After that, they don’t want to know about you. They don’t want to hear from you. No nothing. No neonatal care, no day care, no head start, no school lunch, no food stamps, no welfare, no nothing.1

People who make this charge usually do not even bother to check their facts. A 1996 study showed that conservatives gave an average of four times as much to charity as did liberals,2 and things have not changed since then. In his 2006 book Who Really Cares, Syracuse University professor Arthur Brooks said:

[Conservatives] gave more to every type of cause and charity: health charities, education organizations, international aid groups, and human welfare agencies. They even gave more to traditionally liberal causes, such as the environment and the arts.

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How Pro-Lifers Care for People after Birth

The most detailed recent study of giving in the United States was published by the Chronicle of Philanthropy in November 2017. The numbers are staggering:

  • This study showed that 12 of the top 13 states in average individual giving were “red” states ― those states that tend to vote for Republicans. Romney’s home state Utah took the top spot, and the others were all from the much-maligned “Bible belt.”
  • The bottom seven and the bottom 11 of 12 states in average individual giving in 2012 were “blue” states ― those states that tend to vote for Democrats.
  • Not surprisingly, a Pew Forum study showed that the seventeen most religious states (where respondents said that religion was “very important in their lives”) all voted for Romney, and 21 of the 25 least religious states voted for Obama.3 In other words, people in more religious states are much more generous than people in less religious states.
  • People in 86 of the most generous 88 cities were in states that voted for Romney, and 88 of the 100 least generous cities were in states that voted for Obama in 2012.4 These numbers are even more remarkable when we take into account the fact that “blue” states are much more secular (so they do not contribute as much to churches) and have fewer children to spend money on.
  • In addition to being more charitable, pro-life people are much more generous in the service of life than pro-abortion people; the ten states with the highest fertility rates all voted for Mitt Romney in 2012, and the ten states with the lowest fertility rates all voted for Barack Obama.5

In summary, people who are more religious have more children and are more generous in helping others as well.

Religious people express their native generosity in many other ways. The Roman Catholic Church operates 26% of all of the health care facilities in the entire world, including 117,000 hospitals, clinics and orphanages, 18,000 pharmacies and 512 centers for the care of those with leprosy. This includes 911 hospitals and health care facilities and 418 orphanages in the United States.6

The Lutheran Church, the Jewish faith and others have also founded hundreds of other hospitals in the United States, although many do not continue to operate under religious principles. But when was the last time you saw a hospital named something like the “Cincinnati Atheist and Agnostic Health Care System?”

 

“Pro-Life Until You’re Born?”

All of these statistics makes perfect sense. Conservatives give to charities out of a desire to help people.

But when liberals give to charities, they are more likely to be giving in order to make a political statement, which is why pro-abortion and pro-homosexual groups have such huge bankrolls. If liberals give to the “correct” political groups, vote for the “correct” liberal political candidates, believe in the “correct” causes and pay their taxes, they think they’ve done their bit for social justice and will leave it to the government to take care of the rest of the needs of the poor.

In general, not only do liberals fail to contribute meaningfully to the solution of social problems, they generally support the very things that make people both sick and poor ― unlimited sex without commitment, the destruction of marriage through its redefinition, and single motherhood. They refuse to support the most effective weapon for fighting poverty among women and children, which is traditional marriage. In the case of abortion, they even stridently condemn the only non-governmental organizations that help women with material and practical needs after their babies are born ― crisis pregnancy centers.7

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Endnotes

[1] George Carlin’s “Back in Town” show (1996).

[2] 1996 General Social Survey (GSS) by the National Opinion Research Center (NORC), described in Jeff Jacoby. “Stingy Liberals.” Town Hall, August 22, 2012.

[3] “How Religious is Your State?” The Pew Research Center at http://www.pewforum.org/how-religious-is-your-state-.aspx, December 21, 2009.

[4] For a detailed analysis and listings of all states and cities, write to Brian Clowes at bclowes@hli.org and ask for Excel spreadsheet ‘GENEROUS.XLS.”

[5] The ten states with the highest fertility rates all voted for Mitt Romney: Idaho [77.4]; Kansas [74.7]; Nebraska [76.4]; North Dakota [70.8]; Oklahoma [74.9]; South Dakota [77.8]; Texas [77.6]; Utah [88.4]; Wyoming [75.0]; and Alaska [78.3]. The ten states with the lowest fertility rates all voted for Barak Obama: Vermont [50.8]; New Hampshire [51.9]; Rhode Island [53.6]; Maine [54.8]; Massachusetts [55.4]; Connecticut [56.5]; Michigan [59.8]; Pennsylvania [60.1]; New York [61.7]; Oregon [62.5]; and Florida [63.6] (Reference Data Book and Guide to Sources, Statistical Abstract of the United States [Washington, D.C.: United States Government Printing Office], 2012 [132nd Edition], Table 82, “Births ― Numbers and Rates by State and Island Areas” (number of births per 1,000 women aged 15-44).

[6] “Catholic Hospitals Comprise One-Quarter of World’s Healthcare, Council Reports.” Catholic News Association, February 10, 2010.  J. Kenedy & Sons Official Catholic Directory, 2011.

[7] As one of many examples, ‘Catholics’ for [a Free] Choice says that women should not be offered alternatives to abortion through crisis pregnancy centers (CPCs), which CFFC calls “fraudulent and deceptive clinics.” These CPCs, of course, may never give women factual biological information on fetal development, because this constitutes a “propaganda tool for the anti‑abortion position” [Richard Doerflinger. “Who are Catholics for a Free Choice?” America, November 16, 1985, page 313].

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Dr. Brian Clowes has been HLI’s director of research since 1995 and is one of the most accomplished and respected intellectuals in the international pro-life movement. Best known as author of the most exhaustive pro-life informational resource volume The Facts of Life, and for his Pro-Life Basic Training Course, Brian is the author of nine books and over 500 scholarly and popular articles, and has traveled to 70 countries on six continents as a pro-life speaker, educator and trainer.

27 Comments

  1. Jason on January 2, 2024 at 8:23 PM

    This is obviously biased and particularly around the statement about liberals giving to charity to make statements…. That is absolutely LAUGHABLE and hypocritical

  2. TM on March 28, 2022 at 12:26 AM

    I asked my devout aunt who is a Catholic how the church can prioritize fertilized cells over a living breathing woman and she said she didn’t know. That she doesn’t think fertilized cells are more important than living, breathing women.

    Catholic based healthcare denies women some medical care based on religious doctrine. Medical care should be provided based on science and medical need. Whether or not conservatives give more than liberals is beside the point. The GOP consistently votes against programs that help the poor, vote against childcare, vote against medical insurance expansion (Medicaid) for low income people etc.

    The United States is filled with diverse groups of people who are a multitude of religions no more of less important than Christianity.

    Millions of us do not subscribe to your personal religious beliefs and should not be subject to laws based on religion.

    Separation of church and state forever!

    • HLI Staff on March 28, 2022 at 11:12 AM

      TM, great question. So called “abortion rights” is not primarily a matter of personal religious belief. Science shows that human life begins at conception; religion is not needed for that. Open any modern biology text. Natural law, and many laws of the state, confirm that it’s wrong to end an innocent human life. Science says that even in the first hours of life after sperm meets egg, a human life has begun, genetically unique from his parents, and he will continue to grow and develop; it’s exactly how you and I began. As to the various social concerns you’ve raised, the Catholic position recognizes the inherent dignity of every human person no matter one’s religious belief and advocates for both mother and child, for the good of families, which are the backbone of civilization, and for the common good generally. Permit me to ask an opposing question: Why prioritize a living breathing woman over her daughter who, if not snuffed out in the womb, will also grow to be a living breathing woman? That’s not religion; that’s a scientific fact.

      • Scott Comstock on July 5, 2022 at 5:49 PM

        I agree with this logical thinking. It’s logical to believe life begins at conception and ending this life is murder. The problem with abortion is it’s a very complicated, personal issue. Logical thinking must also include what is the “state of life” of this human. If you equate an embryo as being the same as a baby then you must equate any life as being sacred and ending any life would be murder. When a person is on life-support and possibly “brain dead”, they are in another state of life. They are still alive, heart pumping, lungs breathing and in your logic, ending that life would be murder. But our society gives the hard choice to end that life to the closest relative; father, mother, siblings etc. This is not murder. That same logic must then be used for giving a woman the right to make the same hard choice of ending the life of the unborn embryo. It’s not black and white. Just like end of life choices, the thinking process must include the “state of life” that person is in, there should be limits on how much the fetus has developed and prohibit late-term abortions at a set term that is decided by society. If we are allowed to “pull-the-plug” on a long-term comatose or brain-dead human being without knowing for sure if by some miracle they might fully recover and lead to a longer, more productive healthy life, that same logic must include the choice to end an embryo’s life not knowing what kind of possible life it might have. It is a very hard choice. A choice that should be left up to the mother or if not possible, the next of kin. Your religious beliefs are also your choice and should not be forced on others.

        • HLI Staff on July 20, 2022 at 10:46 AM

          Scott, Ending the life of an innocent child growing in his mother’s womb is black and white. He is not his mother. He is not his father. He is a third human being, with his own unique DNA and inherent dignity, no matter his stage of development. The time for “choice” is before sexual intercourse. A child should not have to die because his parents don’t want to take responsibility for their actions or we deem his particular life isn’t worth living (the Nazis did that). Life is sacred at all of its stages, from womb to tomb – embryo, toddler, teen, middle age, elderly. It is wrong to intentionally end innocent life at any stage. If a person is dying, he is not required to accept extraordinary means to extend life (life support), and the decision to stop such support simply allows life to take its natural course. A child growing in his mother’s womb – that’s not extraordinary care, it’s ordinary care, it’s the way each one of us started our own lives. With abortion his life is ended – intentionally and before its natural end – he might die by lethal injection, he could be pulled apart limb by limb, or he could even be born alive, partially, and then killed.

    • James Mark Campbell on March 9, 2024 at 12:06 PM

      exactly well said TM!

  3. Karen on June 18, 2021 at 12:49 PM

    My grandmother just delivered the 10th of her children to make it to adulthood. There were too many mouths to feed on my grandfather’s paycheck. The older kids dropped out of school to help put food on the table. Grandma went to the parish church for some food. My grandmother held my uncle in her arms and my mom came with to help carry whatever they rec’d home. My grandmother was turned away empty handed. Father at the door refused to help and told Grandma to get a job. A few months later, the kids found Grandma dead on the floor at 41 years old and at least 10 kids; God only knows how many of my aunts and uncles she miscarried. Mom always told us never to go to the private sector when you hit a rough spot b/c you won’t get any help. She told us that when we were on hard times, the government would be there to help. Mom talked from experience.

  4. Nils on March 8, 2021 at 1:18 PM

    Religious states are lead in charity donations only if you count tithing as charity. I’m sorry to sound harsh but making Kenneth Copeland even more rich is not the same as being charitable.

    Fertility rates are also nothing to be particularly proud of. The countries with the highest fertility rates are Niger, Somalia and Congo.

    Pro life is a valid stance on the subject but you’ve chosen some weird things to be proud of.

  5. Richard Kane on February 16, 2021 at 5:25 PM

    Let’s encourage life. Banning guns or abortion rarely stops it. But the gun buyback program works, Romney wants one to get a stimulus check for a child prorated four months before birth. Let’s find ways of making choosing life more attractive

  6. Susan on January 23, 2021 at 9:45 AM

    I just saw a pro-lifer refer to Hispanics as bottom-feeders. If we Christians value human life, we would value every life including the refugees. Many of my pro-lifer friends hated the Black Lives Matter movement. I, confused. I thought every life was precious? So why would they not be marching with us?

    • HLI Staff on January 26, 2021 at 6:33 PM

      Susan, thank you for the input. As an international Catholic apostolate, HLI works tirelessly with and for people of all nationalities and cultural backgrounds. We have strong outreach and affiliates working throughout Central and South America, and do not condone such a reference. Likewise, every black life, like every other life, is precious and must be respected and protected. The Black Lives Matter movement demands justice but does not seem interested in saving unborn black lives. Sadly, in this country the injustice of abortion is more prevalent among African American women than any other population group. Many Planned Parenthood’s surgical abortion facilities are within walking distance of minority communities. Why the silence? Why not protest the killing of so many black babies? Black lives certainly do matter. All of them. Born and unborn.

  7. Stephen Powell on October 31, 2020 at 8:25 PM

    Well said, I also find it interesting that the author of the article focuses exclusively on the fact that personal donations drive the “caring nature for those already born” while he completely ignores and sidelines the conservative opposition to welfare which is what these poor teenage mothers who are forced to have their babies will ultimately overwhelmingly rely on.

    Its the height of hypocrisy for a government to force children who have experimented with sex to have a baby and then for that same government to say they will have to depend on the kindness of private individuals to actually take care of that baby.

    The reason abortion is legal in the U.S. is not because the devil is sitting on the supreme court but its because the pro-life argument is full of hypocrisy.

  8. Ursula Andrews on October 10, 2020 at 4:34 PM

    I taught at a Catholic school for some time. When one of our former students visited the faculty room to show off her beautiful baby, most of the faculty gathered around to admire the baby and to share In the mother’s joy and excitement. Our celebration of this mother and child was not affected by the fact that the mother was unmarried.
    Two senior theology teachers stopped at the door, turned and left abruptly. As they walked away, I heard one say to the other, “I cannot condone that sin by acknowledging that slut, nor will I acknowledge the existence of her bastard.” Her companion smiled and agreed.
    I was shocked and horrified. This was in 2002! They were the “well-respected” lead theology teachers! They led our students to “Right to Life” marches in Washington DC. Our teaching contracts required all teachers to support the teachings of the Church….and these women were the representatives of the Church!
    When elders of the church, the ones we trust to instruct our young people, sound like the horrible nuns in the Irish Mother and Baby Homes of last century, it bodes ill for the young women who give birth to their unplanned babies. Both mother and child can look forward to relentless and endless condemnation from these “respected elders of the Church.”
    That totally unexpected experience really made me reevaluate my opinion of the Church. Perhaps people have concerns with the motives of some “pro-lifers” because some representatives of the Church choose to be so harshly judgmental.

  9. Jean S on October 14, 2019 at 10:27 PM

    Pro life should be applied to both the unborn and the living. We condone government control of abortion while we refuse to support governmental aid to prevent the over 70,000 unnecessary deaths and stop the suffering brought on to millions because the victims can’t afford medical care. We who are Christian must think that God declares a baby due in four months more precious than one four months old.

    • HLI Staff on October 29, 2019 at 9:12 AM

      Thanks for writing. Yes, life from conception till natural death is critical. All life matters. But there is a hierarchy to be considered. An abortion victim is murdered; his heart is injected to stop the heartbeat and he is dismembered, often in excruciating pain. Someone who goes to the hospital with an emergency in the United States is required to be given treatment, and certainly not killed or tortured while alive. But the Church has advocated for caring for the sick since its inception. Just last month the USCCB advocated for more federal money for health care and provides its own health care as well the world over. http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/human-life-and-dignity/health-care/letter-to-senate-on-replacement-for-affordable-care-act-2017-09-21.cfm

      • TM on March 28, 2022 at 12:33 AM

        I’m curious how a fetus can feel horrible pain when his heart has already stopped and he is no longer alive. I didn’t know dead embryos felt pain….

        • HLI Staff on March 28, 2022 at 12:19 PM

          Even the state recognizes and mitigates the pain associated with death by lethal injection for those who have received the death penalty.

      • Forrest Evans on May 26, 2022 at 8:00 AM

        As many are pointing out currently after the latest mass shooting, where is the care for children with a position that wants to control womens bodies and force them to give birth even in cases of rape, and supports the gun industry? The current bizarre position the so called conservative political group is: force women to have babies, have zero accountability for men, support gun rights and make no effort to stem the tide of the horrible mass shootings, support corporate greed, support the restriction of the earth. There is no connection with the capitalist Christian position in our country with Christ. It is somewhat congruent with the history of the Roman Catholic Church which was a political institution that continued the power structure of the Roman Empire and consistent with an institution that hid the abuses of child molestors. I’m not here to attack the Catholic Church or Christians in gerneral, just a reality check. I knew real Christians who cared about the teachings of Christ, about love and compassion. Where are those ChristiAns today? This current strange political so called Christians helped vote in an obviously sinful man as President, who clearly has no Interest in the teachings of Christ, yet shamelessly used the Christian Right wing movement for his own ends. Strange upside world.

        • HLI Staff on June 1, 2022 at 10:59 AM

          Yours is a common argument, Forrest, that pro-lifers only care for unborn babies until they’re born, and it’s just not true. A Christian, trying to live the example and teachings of Christ, honors and cares for all of God’s people, in all stages of life, from conception to natural death. This short video explains how pro-lifers care about life after birth: https://youtu.be/F5SCKlNOTq8.

          Not all Christians live up to Christ’s standard, including the small number of priests in the Catholic Church who molested their altar boys and those in the hierarchy who covered it up, but this doesn’t change the truth of Christ’s teaching and our responsibility to follow Him and to “love our neighbor”.

  10. Gerry P. on September 13, 2019 at 11:24 AM

    I do not know where the idea that pro-lifers discontinue to care about the babies after birth comes from, but I imagine it is the devil, the father of lies.
    My wife and I have joined in the spiritual adoption program over the years and have not ceased to pray for these children we have spiritually adopted using the formula (adjusted for born children) given by the Venerable Fulton J. Sheen. We pray for them by name (one name which is actually known) twice each day, once after our daily Rosary and once before we go to sleep. We also have financially adopted two children from Latin America. We married late in life so we have no children of our own but prior lived lives of service to the Church as single Catholics.
    A second comment is over the well-funded gay movement. I went with my wife to a conference in San Francisco and it just so happened that there was a gay pride festival there which I did not know about. I was appalled to see people walking around naked but for some body paint and little children with glassy eyes indicative of drug intoxication and crowds of young people who displayed symptoms of cannabis intoxication.
    I helped three gay men in their last days with Mother Theresa’s sisters and sat with them, fed them, bathed them and chatted with them and even learned from them and loved them as though they were my own brothers. I recall that none of their friends ever visited them. I do not have a high opinion of the gay movement and its canonization of immoral and self-centered behaviors.

    • HLI Staff on September 16, 2019 at 2:09 PM

      Thank you for your witness, Gerry. Your life affirming compassion of the unborn, the young, and the dying bears out the statistics that pro-lifers are generous and care deeply for people from womb to tomb.

  11. Susan Marie Schneider on September 12, 2019 at 3:47 PM

    This statement is not true. You have no idea the amount of people who stand up for the preborn and their moms. There is follow up for those who need it and those who can help. Each of us even in prayer can adopt in prayer those who are in need. We do it for our own families. We do it for families they do not even know. The Red Cross helps those they do not know, etc. We each play a part in each others lives.

  12. Sj on May 17, 2019 at 9:14 AM

    The reason people think pro lifers don’t care about the already born is because people are more likely to adopt babies rather than older kids. Right now there are nearly 500k kids that need families. If you want people to believe you are truly pro life you have to change. Promote adoption of kids of all ages, and not focus single mindedly on the unborn.

    • HLI Staff on May 20, 2019 at 10:15 AM

      Thanks for your comment. Actually, we are a Catholic apostolate and our particular mission is 5-fold, all pro-life issues. So HLI by nature of our mission statement focuses on them. But you are right about adoption needing more attention. Adoption and foster care is available through Catholic Charities and normally is in every diocese. HOWEVER, if you have seen on our Facebook page, we have actually published articles on the challenges there. Cities like Philadelphia to the state of Michigan are attacking Christian principles and Catholic agencies will not adopt out to same sex couples. This violates freedom of religion, but is also short-sighted, since they provide the majority of placements in many cases. In other states, Catholic agencies are shutting down, because we cannot consort with evil. This writer’s mother was a social worker with Catholic Charities was placing babies for adoption in the 1960s! So the work is by no means new – nuns, etc. have run orphanages for centuries.

      • Cheyenne on July 4, 2020 at 1:44 PM

        Education and nutrition are what get children out of poverty. This article is sickening; precisely what ”anti-lifers” are ridiculing the church. It’s as if the author doesn’t know that we, the people, fund the government. Why would you send a message to girls that their only hope to escape poverty is through traditional marriage rather than encourage and enable opportunities for them to thrive on their own two feet in this world?

  13. HLI Staff on April 23, 2019 at 9:55 AM

    Thank you for sharing this article. However, we must say it addressed a plethora of issues, not all of which can be answered without writing a similarly long article. The “seamless garment” issue is a non-starter. We realize there are conflicting signals the public receives from churches, etc. but the bottom line is, murder trumps the environment, or migration, or any other issue. No where else but the main life issues affecting life from conception to natural death as stated in our mission statement would be the most on point. The author of the article you cite states as much.

    You seem to also address what the pro-abortion side likes to call the “pro-birth” issues. Yes, we believe in the baby being born, not being killed. Every diocese in the world works with Catholic adoption agencies who can place these children in good homes and see that they are cared for…though it is worth mentioning a few states in the United States where anti-Catholic bigotry has forced Catholic foster care to shut down, based on not being willing to place children with same-sex situations. This writer’s mother worked for many, many years placing babies in adoption … until abortion was legalized and most of the babies “disappeared” overnight. So yes, there are resources.

    Our founder, Fr. Karl Marx, was called “the Apostle of Life” by Pope Saint John Paul II, who said Human Life International was “doing the most important work on earth.” You bet we’re pro-life. John Paul II is good enough for us.

    Happy Easter.

  14. Lindsey on April 17, 2019 at 7:59 AM

    If you hold that the movement called “pro-life” really means caring for children and their mothers after they’re born as well as preventing abortion can you please answer for this?

    https://catholicvote.org/why-im-through-being-pro-life/

    Please read not only the article but the comments. You have many many people in your midst who only believe in preventing women from terminating pregnancy but they say that they are pro-life. I can cite for you many more comments from Facebook on the recent fetal heartbeat bills stories reported.

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